22
Dec
2009
The dad’s role in pregnancy.
a pathetic attempt to appeal to the males
I wrote a whole post about Christmas traditions. Then the Captain told me he was over Christmas. And my traditions. Hmm, thought maybe the rest of the world was too (yes, I am aware that not EVERYONE in the world is reading our blog – more fool them) and I am all about pleasing the readers. One of his friends had some helpful suggestions about how I could improve the male readership of this blog. The key one was introducing sports coverage – specifically, blow by blow accounts of any event where England is playing Australia. Probably not going to happen today, but you’ll know when I start cutting and pasting the BBC sports coverage that things have got dire.
In the meantime – how about some thoughts on the male role in pregnancy? There are any number of books on the topic and hundreds of articles written every year. Most of them focus on loving support. It’s true, loving supportiveness is good, but there are some more specific steps you can take to ensure you remain the father of your unborn child. So here are Kate’s top tips on how you can be the best pregnancy person ever:
15
Apr
2009
Talking about ‘IT’
I find that talking about your pregnancy can have some awkward moments in general. Given the very close alignment of the duration of my pregnancy and the time passed since my wedding, I often find myself feeling the need to talk about when The Spaniard and I actually starting trying to get pregnant. I don’t like to talk about the “trying” all that much because, let´s face it, it´s basically a nice way of talking about us having sex but with the added detail of it being without contraceptive. It´s not your typical light conversation. When I see that that look of concentration that I rapidly conclude is people mentally crunching the numbers to see if we actually fall in to the “shotgun wedding” category, I have a tendency to launch in to defending myself. I find myself going in to the detail of The Trying not starting until after the wedding or that there is a very good chance that it may have been The Trying on the actual wedding night that resulted in the outcome we have before us today. Confirming that there was Trying on the actual wedding night is particularly weird. It´s getting waaayyy to specific. It only ever occurs to me afterwards that defending my honour isn’t really important enough to put people through this excessive information sharing. Possibly it’s not the level of information they were after. I must try and let go of my need for accuracy and spare people the mental image of my husband and I having sex. Unless you´re Brangelina no one really wants that image in their head.
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