Comments on: Hospital visit and house bound caring. The job fits in where? http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:23:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Elly http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/comment-page-1/#comment-505 Elly Sat, 13 Feb 2010 07:38:00 +0000 http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/?p=916#comment-505 Actually, the other horrible situation is when you are sick - really sick - and you still have to look after the children. When my youngest was 5 months and older one under 3 I got a chest infection that turned into a mild pneumonia. It was six or seven weeks of misery getting worse and worse, still having to get up once or twice a night for feeds etc and about the time the older one was cutting down on day time naps so not always the chance for a rest during the day. My husband was very busy at work and often away and it also coincided with my parents being away also for several weeks. I have never felt so miserable and powerless. Actually, the other horrible situation is when you are sick – really sick – and you still have to look after the children. When my youngest was 5 months and older one under 3 I got a chest infection that turned into a mild pneumonia. It was six or seven weeks of misery getting worse and worse, still having to get up once or twice a night for feeds etc and about the time the older one was cutting down on day time naps so not always the chance for a rest during the day. My husband was very busy at work and often away and it also coincided with my parents being away also for several weeks. I have never felt so miserable and powerless.

]]> By: Jacqui http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/comment-page-1/#comment-497 Jacqui Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:39:28 +0000 http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/?p=916#comment-497 Em the loss of communication was <em>really</em> bad! ;) Em the loss of communication was really bad! ;)

]]> By: Jacqui http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/comment-page-1/#comment-496 Jacqui Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:37:47 +0000 http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/?p=916#comment-496 Thanks Fiona! He's totally recovered now. Little trooper! So work...panicking, I could probably master that! Let me write that down... Thanks Fiona! He’s totally recovered now. Little trooper! So work…panicking, I could probably master that! Let me write that down…

]]> By: Kate http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/comment-page-1/#comment-493 Kate Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:14:15 +0000 http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/?p=916#comment-493 Ditto Fiona - panic. Call grandparents. Call nannies. But if on other side of world (or you just can't leave them, ie gastro that shouldn't be passed on to anyone else) - have just had to suck it up, suck up and not go to work. Work after hours, at home, before hours etc. Plus take it in turns with husband to stay home - they are part of this working parent lark thing too. It is an absolute nightmare - compounded by the fact that when you go back to work it inevitably cooincides with them going to childcare which is when they start picking up every bug that exists. Pray for a parent as a boss - it does help if they understand just a little of what is going on. Once I made the grave error of thinking the 8 month old was over his gastro and giving him to a friend to look after (rushing it of course as so stressed about getting back to work) and ended up giving her and her baby gastro. And then her sister. And then her sisters children. Yes, I felt delightful. Sure that has nothing to do with never having seen any of them again since.... Ditto Fiona – panic. Call grandparents. Call nannies. But if on other side of world (or you just can’t leave them, ie gastro that shouldn’t be passed on to anyone else) – have just had to suck it up, suck up and not go to work. Work after hours, at home, before hours etc. Plus take it in turns with husband to stay home – they are part of this working parent lark thing too. It is an absolute nightmare – compounded by the fact that when you go back to work it inevitably cooincides with them going to childcare which is when they start picking up every bug that exists.

Pray for a parent as a boss – it does help if they understand just a little of what is going on.

Once I made the grave error of thinking the 8 month old was over his gastro and giving him to a friend to look after (rushing it of course as so stressed about getting back to work) and ended up giving her and her baby gastro. And then her sister. And then her sisters children. Yes, I felt delightful. Sure that has nothing to do with never having seen any of them again since….

]]> By: Fiona http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/comment-page-1/#comment-490 Fiona Tue, 09 Feb 2010 11:40:11 +0000 http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/?p=916#comment-490 Firstly I panic. Then I call the 16 yr old babysitter, except of course she goes to school. If it look like a longish illness in either child I might call Mum who is now only 2 hrs drive away not 1000kms or a flight, but she's usually on the other side of the world galavanting. So I return to the panicking bit. Then I inevitably call my boss and say I can't come in. It really sucks. I'm now a contractor with flexible hours (and a flexible boss, thank god) because my husband's work isn't particularly flexible and he travels a lot. I'd struggle back in my pre-baby job that is for sure. PS am glad your little dude is OK. Hope he keeps improving. Firstly I panic. Then I call the 16 yr old babysitter, except of course she goes to school. If it look like a longish illness in either child I might call Mum who is now only 2 hrs drive away not 1000kms or a flight, but she’s usually on the other side of the world galavanting. So I return to the panicking bit. Then I inevitably call my boss and say I can’t come in. It really sucks. I’m now a contractor with flexible hours (and a flexible boss, thank god) because my husband’s work isn’t particularly flexible and he travels a lot. I’d struggle back in my pre-baby job that is for sure. PS am glad your little dude is OK. Hope he keeps improving.

]]> By: Em http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/2010/02/08/hospital-visit-and-house-bound-caring-the-job-fits-in-where/comment-page-1/#comment-486 Em Tue, 09 Feb 2010 04:02:08 +0000 http://www.onedayyoullthankme.com/?p=916#comment-486 Glad you're over the worst Jac. How horrible and frightening for you all (with his sickness that is, not the loss of communications :-)!) Glad you’re over the worst Jac. How horrible and frightening for you all (with his sickness that is, not the loss of communications :-) !)

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